When a couple with children divorces, it is best for the children if both
parents are actively involved in their lives. Unfortunately for the non-custodial
parent, events occur that cause separation between themselves and their children.
Although the non-custodial parent tries to be there for his children, situations,
such as a new job or marriage to a new spouse, occur and they cannot physically
be in the same town or even state as his or her children.
The National Center for State Courts estimates that 18 million children
have separated or divorced parents, and the parents of another 17 million
children have never been married. One out of four of these children have
a parent living in a different city. According to research, 75 percent
of single mothers will relocate four years after divorcing, and half that
number will relocate again. Approximately ten million children do not
have regular face-to-face interaction with one of their parents.
Thanks to modern technology, parents can stay in touch with their children.
A few tools to communicate with children are phone texting, email, Facebook,
and video hookups with webcams. All of these “virtual visitation”
tools, assist in making distance parenting much easier.
The term, “Virtual Visitation”, is even being used in family
courts to refer to the right of a non-custodial parent to have electronic
communication with his or her children. Utah enacted one of the first
electronic visitation laws, and Illinois was the most recent state where
virtual visitation became a law in 2010. Six states have laws covering
virtual or electronic visitation rights, with effort underway in twenty-two
Advocates for virtual visitation say that it does provide a way to strengthen
the bond between parents and children, but is not meant to replace the
face-to-face contact, but just to supplement it between holidays and summer breaks.
Critics say the law gives some non-custodial parents an excuse to move
away, using the promise of virtual visitation to receive approval from
the court to relocate. There are cases, too, where virtual visitation
has been used to spy on one parent with the non-custodial parent asking
children to open closets or walk around the house so he or she can see
if the custodial parent has a new significant other.
No matter whether you are for or against virtual visitation, it is here
to stay and it does give parents the option to communicate and “virtually
visit” with their children no matter how far apart from each other
they may be.